Foil wrote:If a spouse knew they were hurting the other, but intentionally kept forcing themselves on their spouse for five or ten seconds... is that "okay"
Nope. Not ok at all. And I don't think it was "ok" in this case. I just don't think it was rape.
To explain why I think it was not ok, consider the reverse situation. If they had been involved in oral sex and the woman had started using her teeth to hard and they guy said, "STOP! That HURTS!", he would have expected the situation to stop immediately, not 5 or so seconds later.
Foil wrote:It doesn't matter if it was for a few seconds, or a few minutes... it's wrong.
I agree, but I still see a very important dividing line. Consider the following three cases:
1: No consent was ever granted.
2: Consent was granted, and then withdrawn, but the other partner refused to stop.
3: Consent was granted, and then withdrawn. The other partner does stop, but not instantly.
In case One, no one is going to question that it was rape and hopefully will be willing to support SEVERE punishment for the rapist.
In case two, we USED to have a lot of people who were perfectly willing to say that once a woman had consented to sex, they could not change their minds and the man had license to continue however he wished, for as long as he wished, until he was done. And it appears that we still DO have a FEW Neanderthals who feel that way. But thank goodness most of the public has recognized how horrible this position is and are trying to change the law so that case two is always defined as rape, and they should be willing to support the same severe punishments as in case one.
But case three presents a problem. Because now there is going to be a lot of disagreement on exactly how fast compliance should have been before it counts as non-compliance.
I think your previous "stop sign" analogy doesn't work quite as well in this case, since it doesn't deal with consent having been granted, and then withdrawn. I think an analogy that is legally in the same area as this case would be Trespassing.
It gives us a perfect (although less emotionally charged) mirror of the 3 rape cases I mentioned above.
1: Someone who breaks into property that has a large "No Trespassing" sign posted.
2: Someone who is granted permission to be on a certain property, then refuses to leave when that permission is withdrawn.
3: Someone who is granted permission to be on a certain property, then permission was withdrawn and they were asked to leave, and they do leave, but not instantly.
Case One and Two are quite clear. But case 3 is a bit murky. While technically the moment the owner says "Get off my land!" anyone who does not turn around and leave instantly is guilty of trespass, when the delay is very short, there is a lot of room for debate about whether the delay was reasonable or not. The person MAY have been honestly confused or befuddled by the sudden command. But even if they understood it, even it they stood up and shouted, "How DARE you! You can't DO this to me!" if they left within a short period of time, I don't think any court in the country would convict them of criminal trespass for the short delay. And if we DID count such a delay as criminal trespass, it would devalue the crime, and therefore result in lesser penalties for serious criminal trespass.
Cuda wrote:The first minor is also being charged. Why? she consented and did not tell him to stop, so why is he now being charged?
The first minor was charged with second degree rape, and a brief GOOGLE on that topic indicates that second degree rape usually just means sex with a minor below the age of 16. It doesn't make sense the he was charged and not her, but it does not sound like the charge involves an issue of force. It's an age related crime.
Foil wrote:Plus, and this is the clincher for me: the jury, who knows much more about this case than we do, came to the same conclusion.
But they didn't.
I lean towards the view that coercion was involved, but there are plenty of elements in the story that could support the boys story as true. Without further evidence, it could have been either, or both. It's just as wrong to automatically take the woman's side as it is to automatically take the guys side. And, it doesn't really matter because the jury didn't find that coercion was involved. They judged that the sex was consensual until she said "STOP" during the second event. I'm not saying that the jury was right or wrong about that, I don't know, but I DO disagree with the higher court ruling that the "5 or so" seconds after that constitute the crime of criminal rape the same as if the guys had held her at gunpoint and raped her.
Sergeant Thorne wrote:Feel free to throw one of those "Thorne, you can't mean..." bits after me if it amuses you.
No, I think you were clear enough, and I don't really think we have much more to say to each other on that topic.