Dating

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 10:17 am

Any dating tips? Not that I'm ready but I haven't dated in 17 yrs.

Dedman · Post by **Dedman** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 10:52 am

I have been out of the game for 20 years. I wouldn't know where to begin.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:17 am

Dedman wrote:I have been out of the game for 20 years. I wouldn't know where to begin.

I know the usual "be who you are" stuff but it's kinda weird. I'm 36 yet I still get carded at bars. So I look young which will attract younger women and may get turned off when they find out I'm older.

Oh well, one day at a time.

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:20 am

Don't act like all you want to do is get laid.
Split the bill the first time, pay it all the second.
Don't get (visibly) overexcited, you'll look desperate.
Don't curse.
Don't smoke. (w/o asking at least)
Keep conversation neutral.
Don't just talk about yourself. (Ask questions about her interests)
Take her to a decent place..not McDonalds, but not the Ritz either. You don't want to have to one-up yourself the second date.

edit: younger women usually don't mind older guys. Once they clear 25..they don't seem to care. My dad, at 40, dated 25yo's because they had a good time. (He looked about 30). Don't even bring age up.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:23 am

Testiculese wrote:Don't act like all you want to do is get laid.
Split the bill the first time, pay it all the second.
Don't get (visibly) overexcited, you'll look desperate.
Don't curse.
Don't smoke. (w/o asking at least)
Keep conversation neutral.
Don't just talk about yourself. (Ask questions about her interests)
Take her to a decent place..not McDonalds, but not the Ritz either. You don't want to have to one-up yourself the second date.

I'm not that desperate.
I don't mind paying the bill.
I don't curse unless I hear her curse.
I don't smoke so that's covered.
I never just talk about myself.
McDs is never good for anything.

Thanks for the info.

Xamindar · Post by **Xamindar** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:29 am

And don't date online.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:39 am

Xamindar wrote:And don't date online.

I'm shy enough but online dating is not for me.

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 11:46 am

You don't, that's great, and probably why you look 10 years younger.

Don't date a woman that smokes, you'll regret it within the year. You'll really regret it when her face divebombs at 30 or so because of smoking.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 12:06 pm

I quit in 95, wife still smokes but said she quit since we broke up. Go figure.

Yeah I won't be dating any smokers.

Xamindar · Post by **Xamindar** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 12:30 pm

Testiculese wrote:divebombs at 30 or so because of smoking.

LOL

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 1:19 pm

But it's true! I see women younger than I, at 30, who look 40. I sit and wait, and sure enough, out comes that pack of poison. Light up, idiot! Those T&A will going to be sagging as much as that face.

My last two gf's both look 10 years younger than they are. One 30, she gets carded everywhere, the last ia 25, and looks 15. (Which I thought was awesome..I got to look like a pedo without actually being one

) Both were quite 'perky' still, while all the girls around them were saggy.

Canuck · Post by **Canuck** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:04 pm

Double wrap.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:10 pm

Canuck wrote:Double wrap.

Yes, that I know. Gonna suck since I haven't used one in 17 years.

Kiran · Post by **Kiran** » Sat Jun 03, 2006 7:47 am

Merlin, start working out

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Sat Jun 03, 2006 10:15 am

Kiran wrote:Merlin, start working out

Um, I'm not overweight or flabby. I'm fit as a fiddle and I still roller blade a lot.

I take good care of myself. As for working out in a gym, no thanks. I'm to self concious about my "slim" figure.

De Rigueur · Post by **De Rigueur** » Sat Jun 03, 2006 10:54 am

CDN_Merlin wrote:I quit in 95, wife still smokes but said she quit since we broke up. Go figure.

Yeah I won't be dating any smokers.

My 2 cents.
Try not to evaluate new prospects in terms of your ex's strengths and weaknesses. For example, suppose your ex had a problem that really bugged you -- say, she wasn't good with money -- and you find someone who doesn't have that problem. You may overestimate the value of that one quality and overlook other qualities.

Good luck.

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Sat Jun 03, 2006 10:56 am

That's great advice. I will remember that one. The smoking though is a big one for me. I just can't breathe when someone smokes in a room with me in it.

Iceman · Post by **Iceman** » Sun Jun 04, 2006 7:10 am

Viagra, Cialis ... both work wonders

Bama · Post by **Bama** » Sun Jun 04, 2006 9:25 am

CDN_Merlin,
You da man, now get yo ass in gear and go get some.

Remember, nothing has changed but your mine set. That is what years of marrage will do to ya, so you just have to work on how you think about yourself.

As for the younger girls, well, I was free after 12 years and was 35 at the time and it took me about 2 months to get back in the swing of things. From then on it was pu**y-wipped Bama for 4 years stright. However I then made the mastake of marrying because I got tired of running the routs everynight. Big mastake! Fourteen years of ownage and pain. Love? Naaa, Lust? Yeppers!

Man was made to be free, and experance much pu**y, and the only way is to keep playing the field. At least as long as you can. Now CDN_Merlin, I was at 36 tasting the fruits of 18 and 19 year olds on a regular bases, but nothing beats the pleasure of a nice 30 something. Dates? Noway! Pickups? yeppers.

Now CDN_Merlin, Go get some!

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Sun Jun 04, 2006 10:27 am

Bama you sly dog.

As much as I'd like to do a 18-19 yrs old, I'd find it kinda weird. The girl from school is 25 and hot enough. We've had this secual tension since school and it's driven us nuts, now that we are both single, we are gonna take avantage of it.

Bama · Post by **Bama** » Sun Jun 04, 2006 11:24 am

CDN_Merlin wrote:Bama you sly dog.

As much as I'd like to do a 18-19 yrs old, I'd find it kinda weird. The girl from school is 25 and hot enough. We've had this secual tension since school and it's driven us nuts, now that we are both single, we are gonna take avantage of it.

LOL, Go for it. I never said 25 year olds were out of line. P is P, have a good time.

Sir Sam II · Post by **Sir Sam II** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:54 am

Great dating tips for our minors.

Tricord · Post by **Tricord** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 10:03 am

So Bama.. After all those endeavors, is that why you wear a glove when handling your joystick?

Admiral Thrawn · Post by **Admiral Thrawn** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 1:25 pm

Any dating tips? Not that I'm ready but I haven't dated in 17 yrs

Well, I would ask my female friends and get good advice from them rather than consult a bunch of computer guys on a video game forum (no offense anyone) hehe

Behemoth · Post by **Behemoth** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 1:47 pm

Dont creep her out, be able to hold a good conversation, make her laugh.. alot and be cool.

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 1:48 pm

All my answers come from asking women friends.

Kiran · Post by **Kiran** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 4:02 pm

Admiral Thrawn wrote: Well, I would ask my female friends and get good advice from them rather than consult a bunch of computer guys on a video game forum (no offense anyone) hehe

At least he's not consulting ALL guys.

Palzon · Post by **Palzon** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 4:40 pm

Admiral Thrawn wrote:Well, I would ask my female friends and get good advice from them rather than consult a bunch of computer guys on a video game forum (no offense anyone) hehe

He's better off learning from a man's mistakes than from the idealized way a woman wants him to view her. Considering he IS a computer guy from a gaming forum, he would be much better off asking computer guys from a gaming forum so long as they have been successful with the ladies and aren't full of shite.

Bet51987 · Post by **Bet51987** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 6:09 pm

At 18 I'm no expert in dating but I kinda like what Testiculese said and if I were you I would take his advice. As far as the girl is concerned, you will know in just a few minutes if she is right for you.

But don't swear even if she does and no lying about anything. Good luck to you...

Bettina

Wareagle · Post by **Wareagle** » Mon Jun 05, 2006 10:20 pm

No offence but one would think of being divorced before dating and at least out of the same house hold for more than a week last i heard you was still there last week

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 7:18 am

Nope, Bettina, you won't know for a few months whether the girl is right for you. (and vice-versa). Don't ever make the mistake of taking the person at face value.

Muffalicious · Post by **Muffalicious** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 8:10 am

Here is a little Muff advice,

You should find out what you want out of life first and you will never settle for less. The first mistake is to \"play the game\", just have fun and enjoy life, then they will come to you.

Oh, also, be carefull who you mess with, there are a lot of crazy bitches out there.

Good luck!

CDN_Merlin · Post by **CDN_Merlin** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 8:25 am

I've realized I'm not ready to date or anything right now. It's much hardert than I thought. I have a good friend that is helping me through this and we hand out and play ping .pong and pool a lot.

Muffalicious · Post by **Muffalicious** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 9:46 am

CDN_Merlin wrote:I've realized I'm not ready to date or anything right now. It's much hardert than I thought. I have a good friend that is helping me through this and we hand out and play ping .pong and pool a lot.

Hey thats how I met SuperSheep 10yrs ago! He told me girls can't play pool. So I tried my best to kick his ass in pool.

Testiculese · Post by **Testiculese** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 11:06 am

Here's something I found that works rather well if you are looking for a real/semi-real date, not just some floozy. I didn't take this position because it works, it's just how I am. I consider it a little rude/obnoxious to hit on women...especially when I hear the complaints from my female friends. Biggest complaint is that they can't go out for one night without at least three guys with no shame or control over themselves trying to pick them up. As a people watcher, I see it all the time anyway. You should hear the lines these guys try to use. It's laughable if it wasn't so transparently pathetic.

Anyway...

I don't go out with the intention of picking women up. I meet them, I talk to them, I pay attention to them, but I do not use a single pick-up line, nor do I make any overt statements or anything of the sort. (Unless she starts it!) I show direct interest in the ones I'm interested in, but I keep the conversation on anything but me being single and/or looking. I don't do the cliches, like try to sneak my arm around them, or wall them in to talk to them 'alone' or any of the game plays. To women, unless they're stupid or sluts, it reeks of desperation and a narrow-minded determinination to get sex. Instead, I give them plenty or room, and mostly let them close the space to talk, then I open it up again.

Without that constant pressure on them, they seem to be more relaxed around me, and several will end up seeking me out to stand with me, or sit at my table, while avoiding the guys who are out on 'the mission'. I'm the one who ends up with their names. I don't do one night stands, usually, so I don't take advantage of it, but all the guys who were chasing them around got nothing at all.

Most recent, I went out on Saturday, and within three hours, out of the five single women in my area of the building, two were actively seeking me out. I got their names, they said that they will be back next week. Two out of five isn't bad, especially when you're not trying!

Tricord · Post by **Tricord** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 11:15 am

Never talk about work, never talk about money, and listen.

That should give you a good basis to continue from

Foil · Post by **Foil** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 4:01 pm

I've been (happily) married for over six years now, and it's interesting to see how a number of these early-dating tips actually apply to long-term relationships.

Like communication, especially the art of listening without a personal \"I want something out of it\" agenda. It's been mentioned here at least four times, and for good reason... it's probably one of the most important skills in everything from first impressions to marriage.

Anyway, good luck Merlin!

Bet51987 · Post by **Bet51987** » Tue Jun 06, 2006 4:23 pm

Testiculese wrote:Nope, Bettina, you won't know for a few months whether the girl is right for you. (and vice-versa). Don't ever make the mistake of taking the person at face value.

Thanks for the tip. I forget that all I see are the boys in school and tend to know them a little already. Meeting a total stranger will be much different like you said.

Bee

TIGERassault · Post by **TIGERassault** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 11:33 am

The only tip I can give is to be as sweet and as sensitive to what she wants as you can! Whenever doing ANYTHING, think about if it would affect the other's happyness.

Oh, and dont go anywhere near any sluts, perverts or spoiled people.

Stupid · Post by **Stupid** » Wed Jun 14, 2006 8:07 pm

TIGERassault wrote:Oh, and dont go anywhere near any sluts, perverts or spoiled people.

You DO realize that you just eliminated 99.999% of women that actually leave their homes, right? I'd take a chick that's a pervert over a slut, at least she's not giving herself out to anyone else.... And spoiled chicks do want too much.