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Ferno wrote:Might help if you posted some.

you didn't even try and answer the one question I had.

and the opinions i've seen are mainly centered around 'I hate fags!' and calling the day of silence 'stupid'.
The one question you had was answered before you asked it, you apparently didn't read carefully enough.
Ferno wrote:so.. what 'values' are they trying to 'force' on people? Anyone have an answer for that?
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tunnelcat wrote:If one is not bigoted or intolerant, then what is it? Fear?

What makes people so afraid that they don't want to expose their children to the realities of gender variance in others at school? Are they afraid that exposure to someone else's homosexuality will turn their children gay?

What utter bulls@#t! You can't make children gay just by teaching them about how others live their lives. As for exposure to gay pedophiles, statistically there are FAR more heterosexual pedophiles in the world than homosexual ones!
Are you purposely misrepresenting, or are you just that naive? Homosexuality is wrong. It is an unnatural deviation. That is the position of these people. It's all about the context of the information. At some point I would teach my children about the realities of gender deviations in others, but I would teach them that it is wrong--it's not acceptable behavior. And that's because it isn't, not because I hate homos. These schools on the other hand would be afraid to make that statement at best, and condone such behavior as normal at worst. So what you're saying is the utter bull****, because teaching children that it's acceptable obviously increases the likelihood that they will try it. I don't care what some people say, a child can have an improper urge, and if properly warned against it, can make the right choice and go on to live a normal, happy life. Children are naturally curious, they'd try going in the road once if they weren't warned against it.
It's the "value" that homosexuality is normal and acceptable.
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Ferno wrote:
Sergeant Thorne wrote:Hey, whatever you want to think I guess, Ferno. Don't let yourself be troubled with the facts or what's been said. It's simpler that way. ;)
Might help if you posted some.

you didn't even try and answer the one question I had.

and the opinions i've seen are mainly centered around 'I hate fags!' and calling the day of silence 'stupid'.
:roll:

Did you miss the commentary about government support of a viewpoint (particularly by Spidey and Kilarin)? There's lots of interesting commentary in this thread.
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Ferno wrote:
Duper wrote:...and the church was intent on supplying guns to school teachers Ferno? oh, come now.
This is a gross misinterpretation of what i said. I was referring to the fact that the people who take part in 'day of silence' do it VOLUNTARILY.

so.. which views are gays trying to force on people?
I don't really need to reply to this for various reasons. One being that it's been addressed a number of times already now in this thread.... but since you seemed to miss the subtly of what i was implying, I'll be straight forward.

I knew exactly what you meant and I was being critical of your sarcasm. You need to understand that back in the early 60's when prayer was taken outta schools and anything else that smacked of God, Most of this country was still going to church. but as most of us know, something fundamentally changed in the USA during the 60's... but I'm not going into that right now, but it might make an interesting discussion.
So very FEW felt like they were "having a gun put to their head". In fact, it wasn't hardly like anything the media makes it out to be except maybe in small towns in the midWest or hills....where it was pretty much accepted (yeah I'm sure there were exceptions..whatever, there always is.)

Part of the problem is that, like you Ferno, many here (if not most) have no children. I do. In fact, I was horrified when I read through a curriculum being introduced here in the Beaverton area when my daughter was in the 1st grade. It was about "choices". it wasn't about peer pressure neither. It was very VERY blatantly about being gay. It was a slow progression of training that started in the first grade and became very aggressive and open by High school.

Aside from "right or wrong", why is this in school? Will this improve their scholastic ability? No, not really. If I could have afforded private school, I would have gone that route.
I'm sure that Cuda saw similar things on his side of town. He's got a number of kids and lives across town from me in a different community.

I'm a Christian and the scriptures which I believe and, you do not as well I know, are very VERY clear about homosexuality. God does not approve. That's it. Pretty straight forward. There are a lot of other things that we're not supposed to do either. there's something different about sexual sin though. It not only potentially damages others, it slowly erodes away at the inside of the individual. I don't expect you to agree with that... or many to here as most don't see porn as a big deal.

at any rate. There it is. Oh btw, kids are now and still being suspended for holding prayer meetings on campus (high school and junior high)when initiated by the students themselves all across the country. It's not headline news though. A second grader was suspended without prior warning when she brought Valentine's Day cards to school and gave them to her class mates. This happened here in Portland about 2 years ago. People do not know the law and are jumping to all kinds of conclusions, mostly outta fear that the ACLU will sue them into the ground or they will be fired by those over them. It's gotten ridiculous. some schools won't rent space to church groups on Sundays that would like to hold services because of their interpretation of "Separation of church and state". ...that's just silly.
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\"Man, you need to relax on the hostility.\" Well.. wouldn't you get a little testy if you asked a question and all you got was a bunch of filibuster?

\"This is a very good thread.\" of course it is. I've been reading it almost every chance I got.

\"What did you expect would happen?\" I expected a relatively normal conversation/debate thread where people ask questions, got answers and posted their views. Up til now, it's been two out of three.


Now to the meat of the matter.


\"bye the way - in all 3 pages you where the only one to use the word stupid aside from me. You used it in a negative fashion and I responded it was not stupid. The word is never again used by anyone\"

Yea i know i called the protest stupid. not saying I didn't. I fully admit I did, and if I find something stupid i will call it just that.

Duper: interesting response but it still didn't answer my initial question.

\"but since you seemed to miss the subtly of what i was implying\" No. I knew exactly what you were implying. I didn't like it very much and so I pressed you for an answer.

\"kids are now and still being suspended for holding prayer meetings on campus (high school and junior high)when initiated by the students themselves all across the country. It's not headline news though. A second grader was suspended without prior warning when she brought Valentine's Day cards to school and gave them to her class mates. This happened here in Portland about 2 years ago.\"

That would be a problem with the schools that needs to be dealt with and it's completely irrelevant to what I asked.

Lothar: not really, no. In fact, I did respond to Kilarin. Spidey had some interesting commentary but nothing that really rubbed me the wrong way so I thought it best to just read what he said. I'm not exactly the type of person to just say 'i agree' and not post anything more than that.

Thorne: \"It's the \"value\" that homosexuality is normal and acceptable.\"

And because of your beliefs, you think it's both abnormal and unacceptable. I'm pretty sure that quite a few reasonable people would disagree with you, such as neutral christians for example. If you accept that God's plan is completely just and flawless, then you must also accept that God also put gays on this planet because it's part of His perfect plan.

if you think that's a horrible 'value' to spread to people, then it's probably a horrible 'value' to have women vote, to end racial segregation or to even legalize interracial marriage.

I did a little digging for these values that NO ONE will even bother to answer and would rather run circles around are these:
protection from hate crimes based on sexual orientation;
an end to discrimination in employment and accommodation;
the right to marry or enter into civil unions;
the right to be accepted as church members;
the right to be considered for ordination, etc.


That's a real 'horrible' agenda, isn't it. I must buy canned food and board up the house.

Please.

Prejudices were supposed to end twenty years ago. Not rage on into today like a bull in a china shop.

You guys forget that I too, am a christian with my own relationship with God. But as I was taught by my very christian mother (my whole family, including relatives) to never to spread hate, myself and my church would never subscribe to an idea like 'protesting a day of silence'.


Again, this debate.. which will undoubtedly turn into a religious pro/anti-gay one (with a little dash of for/against the protest) has been mostly subjective with some people worried about how this might affect their children. very little hard fact has been actually discussed.

Most kids; if they haven't already been taught that 'homosexuality is a sin and should be abolished' by now are going to look at their parents as completely out to lunch on that respect. I know I would if I was a kid and saw all this happening.

The problem that I'm seeing, is some people here have a fundamentalist-leaning viewpoint that homosexuality is wrong because the bible says so, they feel compelled to tell everyone else that it's wrong and they must also tell their kids it's wrong, which will lead to intolerance. and if their kid is gay, it will lead to a very warped sense of being.

There will be kids that will involve themselves in the day of silence, and will do so willingly. they won't be forced into doing it (gun to the head comment) by being paid, pressured or otherwise coerced. They will be asked to do it. and the kids always have the option of saying 'no thank you, i'm not interested'. No one is enslaving these kids to do it. And that's the thing I think a lot of people here have missed.

If people would actually take the time to understand how it works and why people get involved, a protest would not even be necessary.

but it always comes down to one thing. religious fundamentalism in the guise of 'protecting our children'.


People are going to look back on this day of silence and not really care that it happened. But people are going to look back at the day of silence protest as a sad joke.

Just watch.
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*sigh*
-I'M a 'non-believer' that goes to a public school with teacher-led prayer, usually about five times a schoolday! While we don't have to pray, we are required to stand up with the others out of respect. And you lot are the ONLY people that I've ever heard having a problem with it, and I bet you didn't even have it yourself. Atheists, Jews, Muslims, nobody has a problem with it here!
-Said 'day of silence' is a nationally recognised day. It's safe to say that any teacher that tries to get a participant to talk is a bad teacher, whatever way you put it.
-The thought that someone's sexuality can be pre-determined by what gender role they take up is complete bull! But then again, none of you believed me when I said I knew how to change how I feel about people and such, so I don't expect you to believe me on that point either.
-There's no point on ANY of you religious people trying to debate your opinions by using your religion as a base is absurd. There's, literally, thousands of religions, so the chances that your religion is the only true religion alone are ridiculously small. Sure, you might believe it yourself, but you surely can't expect anyone else to. You're better off to keep your opinion to yourself in cases like that instead of trying to persuade everyone else. Heck, I'm going to make it my business to give out whenever anyone tries to bring religion into a debate from now on!

TL;DR: Most of you are way too easily offended and have little respect for other people.
This entire thread is making me rage, I'm going for a walk to calm down.

Oh, and in most cases, paedophilia does not lead to rape. Don't think that it does.
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Ferno wrote:I did a little digging for these values that NO ONE will even bother to answer and would rather run circles around are these:
protection from hate crimes based on sexual orientation;
an end to discrimination in employment and accommodation;
the right to marry or enter into civil unions;
the right to be accepted as church members;
the right to be considered for ordination, etc.
There's a pretty major difference in a couple of those, Ferno.

I support the first three, simply because of the fact that I believe people ought to be treated with dignity and fairness.

I have to take exception to the other two, because they impose an outside view onto the church.

The state shouldn't force a church to ordinate homosexuals, and it certainly shouldn't discriminate against them or protect those who commit hate crimes against them.
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I find the last two to also be unacceptable. Church is a private organization and can maintain rules as it sees fit. It's a country club, not everyone can be a member.
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Testiculese wrote:I find the last two to also be unacceptable. Church is a private organization and can maintain rules as it sees fit. It's a country club, not everyone can be a member.
Not everyone WANTS to Test; that doesn't mean they can't.
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Granted, church membership is quite lenient, but some people simply can't get in. Gays for one. Blacks (anybody non-white) couldn't until recently. (Hey, same thing as country clubs, haha, though 90% of the blacks in a country club are still carrying trays.)
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I could be missing a piece of the puzzle, but aren't hate crimes pointless?

I mean, if I go and kill someone, wether they are black or white, I go to jail. If that is the case, what do hate crimes do, make it worse if you kill a black person? Assuming all crimes are treated fairly, isn't this illogical? (then again, that is about all I know about them)

Making it illegal to end discrimination in employment and such is very logical, but I just don't get hate crimes, since they are already a crime...
Testicles wrote:(Hey, same thing as country clubs, haha, though 90% of the blacks in a country club are still carrying trays.)
Replace the word club with music, and it fits even bettah!
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Dakatsu wrote:I mean, if I go and kill someone, wether they are black or white, I go to jail. If that is the case, what do hate crimes do, make it worse if you kill a black person? Assuming all crimes are treated fairly, isn't this illogical?
Motive has a lot to do with it, D.

For example, even assuming the verdict is "guilty" in each of the following, would you sentence them the same?
1. Joe steals food because he wants it.
2. Joe steals food because it's the only way to feed his family.
3. Joe steals food because he was told to at gunpoint.

The topic of motive applies to this thread as well, because there has been some discussion of "why" homosexuality isn't considered acceptable. It matters whether the reason is because someone is grossed-out by it, or because they just don't understand it, or because of an ethical stance based on their faith.
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Foil wrote:There's a pretty major difference in a couple of those, Ferno.

I support the first three, simply because of the fact that I believe people ought to be treated with dignity and fairness.

I have to take exception to the other two, because they impose an outside view onto the church.

The state shouldn't force a church to ordinate homosexuals, and it certainly shouldn't discriminate against them or protect those who commit hate crimes against them.
yea I pretty much agree with you on that one. I don't think it's right to have the state force the church to do anything it does not want to do (freedom of choice), but on the fipside, the state should not make it illegal. If a certain church does not want to marry a gay couple, then so be it. but if another church wants to marry a gay couple, then that should be their right to do so also.


Since parenting was brought up here's my take on it, after putting myself into Spidey's shoes: I would simply teach my kid that if he has to deal with something he doesn't like or doesn't agree with he should do what he can to distance him or herself from that group. He would have the choice between dealing with it right on the spot, or defusing the situation and letting those in charge know of the problem. It won't extend to telling the teachers off tho because that's when I would step in and ground the kid for two weeks.
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JFTR

protection from hate crimes based on sexual orientation; <<<They should be protected from all crimes, just like everyone else.

an end to discrimination in employment and accommodation; <<<Right on.

the right to marry or enter into civil unions; <<<Sure why not, as per reasons expressed in other thread.

the right to be accepted as church members; <<<No, churches are private organizations.
the right to be considered for ordination, etc. <<<Same as above.

Is that all? I would love to answer as many of these as possible, so people can see that my views are not based on bigotry.
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Seems reasonable to me.
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Ferno wrote:protection from hate crimes based on sexual orientation;
I'm with Dakatsu and Spidey on this. Crime is crime. Murder is illegal, abuse is illegal. Let's treat them all the same. Hate crime laws result in us saying that a man who beat his wife to death because she burned the dinner deserves less punishment then a man who shot someone for being gay. Creating a "special" category for crimes against minorities is the opposite of equality.

Foil has a very valid point that motive is important when dealing with crime, but that's already built into the law. We just need to enforce it evenly. We don't need special prosecution of "hate crimes". We need a judicial system that prosecutes crimes against minorities with full vigor because they are human beings just like anyone else with all of the same rights as anyone else.
Ferno wrote:an end to discrimination in employment and accommodation;
I'm opposed to Discrimination against homosexuals in secular workplaces. I'm not entirely certain what's meant by "accommodation".
Ferno wrote:the right to marry or enter into civil unions;
I've already stated my opinion on that multiple times in the other thread. :)
Ferno wrote:the right to be accepted as church members;
the right to be considered for ordination, etc.
As a bunch of the others have said, Churches have the right to make their own rules.
Please note that there ARE Churches that accept practicing homosexuals.
Ferno wrote:some people here have a fundamentalist-leaning viewpoint that homosexuality is wrong because the bible says so, they feel compelled to tell everyone else that it's wrong and they must also tell their kids it's wrong, which will lead to intolerance. and if their kid is gay, it will lead to a very warped sense of being.
So, what your saying is that we must protect our children from the harm done by those who want to protect their children from harm. :)

Your motivation isn't all that different from the fundamentalists. You see something that you believe will hurt kids, an attitude you consider intolerant in this case, and you'd like to see it stopped. I'm 100% behind your right to campaign for this, to argue for this, or to publish a paper supporting this point of view. But if you try to legislate it, you are no better than they are.
TigerAssult wrote:I'M a 'non-believer' that goes to a public school with teacher-led prayer, usually about five times a schoolday! While we don't have to pray, we are required to stand up with the others out of respect. And you lot are the ONLY people that I've ever heard having a problem with it, and I bet you didn't even have it yourself. Atheists, Jews, Muslims, nobody has a problem with it here!
A lot of people, including black people, didn't have a problem with "separate but equal" in the south. Didn't make it right.
TigerAssult wrote:Most of you are way too easily offended and have little respect for other people.
This entire thread is making me rage, I'm going for a walk to calm down.
Thank you for adding a nice laugh to my day! I HOPE it was intentional. :)
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Kilarin wrote:
TIGERassault wrote:Most of you are way too easily offended and have little respect for other people.
This entire thread is making me rage, I'm going for a walk to calm down.
Thank you for adding a nice laugh to my day! I HOPE it was intentional. :)
lol, i didn't notice until you pointed it out.
To defend TIGERassault though - it's kinda like the saying:
"i'm prejudiced against prejudice".
it's the gun that only shoots other guns,
the monster created to fight other monsters.
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So, what your saying is that we must protect our children from the harm done by those who want to protect their children from harm. :)
In a sense.
Your motivation isn't all that different from the fundamentalists. You see something that you believe will hurt kids, an attitude you consider intolerant in this case, and you'd like to see it stopped. I'm 100% behind your right to campaign for this, to argue for this, or to publish a paper supporting this point of view. But if you try to legislate it, you are no better than they are.
Right. That's where I draw the line; at legislating my views. I don't want that. There has been policy instituted though, that prevents employers from barring certain people from working based on religion, creed, or race. seems to be working pretty well, though.
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Kilarin wrote:
Ferno wrote:an end to discrimination in employment and accommodation;
I'm opposed to Discrimination against homosexuals in secular workplaces. I'm not entirely certain what's meant by "accommodation".
"acommodation" = Can't get a hotel room 'cause you're gay.
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Spidey wrote:Why are gender roles any different from morality or ethics? I’m going to teach my son what is to be a man, mostly by setting the example to follow, along with a certain amount of guidance. A good roll model is important to a child, along with guidance, without that how will they learn…peer pressure?

When his peers are teaching him that to be a man you must get as many bitches pregnant as possible, I would hope that I have enough influence to contradict that.

But in the end when he becomes an adult the ultimate decision of what constitutes being a man is up to him, I can only hope that I did the right thing.
Sorry to bump this back up. I do agree with you Spidey on your point. If a father wants to teach his son to be a man, he has every right to. Same with the mother and daughter. That's what parents expect when raising a child, to be role models and teachers.

However, what happens when the son or daughter fights the gender expectation of the parent? That does sometimes happen at a very young age. It will begin to show up in the types of toys and play the child prefers. What would you do if your son didn't like to play with male toys or play rough male games with his friends? What if he instead liked to play house or play dress up, for example, clearly associated with females? Just curious here on what your reaction would be.

Personally I'm not gay myself, but I have talked to some of the gay friends I've met over the years and most of them reported parental persecution and gender role enforcement when they were growing up because liked to play with toys or do activities that were normally associated with the opposite sex.
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tunnelcat…

I guess I would have to get an exorcist… :P J/K

No seriously, that’s a good question, I would hope that I would have the wisdom to cope with the situation without psychological damage to my child. In a case like that I would prolly get professional help.

I think what your asking is, what would I do if my child turned out to be gay, the answer is: I hope I would be able to deal with it without doing something stupid like destroying my relationship with them.

Mostly my concern with teaching my child how to be a man deals with ethics, treating women with respect, parental responsibility And things like that and less to do with “macho” stuff.

Homosexual men are still men, and should act like men, regardless of sexual preferences.

Edit:

Ok after thinking about it a little more, maybe those answers are a little vague.

If I had a male child that had female leanings I would encourage as much male behavior as possible example:

If he wanted to play with dolls, I would buy him action figures, if he still was not satisfied then I would buy him a doll.

If he wanted to play house I would encourage him to play the “daddy”

I would also continue to dress him as a boy.

So basically I would guide him as much as possible, but never force a male gender on him.
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Spidey: You are labouring under the common misconception that gay boys are feminine. That is not unusual but there are large numbers of gay men that like being men. The only thing is that they like sex with other men.
Sounds like if you had a gay child you would do what most of us would do. Love them as best you can and try to cope.
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Ford Prefect wrote:Spidey: You are labouring under the common misconception that gay boys are feminine. That is not unusual but there are large numbers of gay men that like being men. The only thing is that they like sex with other men.
Sounds like if you had a gay child you would do what most of us would do. Love them as best you can and try to cope.
Wrong…I was just answering a question from tunnelcat.

I was actually considering another post “disputing” the notion that every gay was also gender confused.

ROFL…Just keep firing away in the dark Ford…sooner or later you might hit the mark.
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Actually a hate crime should have a lesser penalty than premeditated crime as \"hate\" should be categorized as a crime of passion.
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people who kill in Passion are less dangerous than those who kill Premeditated? i dunno man, that's a big call.

Those who kill passionately might be easier to stop because they are clumsy. But wouldn't they be more inclined to uncontrollable killing sprees?
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\"uncontrollable killing sprees\" - Apparently so, roidy.
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woodchip wrote:Actually a hate crime should have a lesser penalty than premeditated crime as "hate" should be categorized as a crime of passion.
Unless I misunderstand, a "crime of passion" is a heat-of-the-moment crime. But you're talking about prejudiced hate, which is not confined to the moment.
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it becomes man slaughter then doesn't it?
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Not quite, from my understanding.

This is how I would break it down:

Accidental & un-premeditated = manslaughter
Intentional & un-premeditated (\"crime of passion\") = murder
Intentional & premeditated = murder

Either of the last two could be a \"hate crime\".
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Spidey wrote:So basically I would guide him as much as possible, but never force a male gender on him.
I guess you have compassion after all, Spidey. Just for grins, how would you treat a female daughter? Would it bother you the same if she was a 'tomboy' and refused to behave as a girl should, even through her teenage years? Girls seem to be given more slack in our society than males when it comes to gender variance. And brother, this topic has really wandered around! :lol:
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that seems about right. Thanks Foil.
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tunnelcat wrote:
Spidey wrote:So basically I would guide him as much as possible, but never force a male gender on him.
I guess you have compassion after all, Spidey. Just for grins, how would you treat a female daughter? Would it bother you the same if she was a 'tomboy' and refused to behave as a girl should, even through her teenage years? Girls seem to be given more slack in our society than males when it comes to gender variance. And brother, this topic has really wandered around! :lol:

I think I would have to let my wife deal with any girls.

/me looks around, ready to duck from any snipes. coughFordcough
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Foil wrote:Not quite, from my understanding.

This is how I would break it down:

Accidental & un-premeditated = manslaughter
Intentional & un-premeditated ("crime of passion") = murder
Intentional & premeditated = murder

Either of the last two could be a "hate crime".
Your 2nd example would carry a lesser penalty than the 3rd example though
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tunnelcat…Now, let me ask you a question.

Based on the fact that I believe that marriage should be based on something greater than simply sanctifying* a love affair and don’t want political crap in public school, how do you extrapolate that somehow shows a lack of compassion?

Is it because I said a few people don’t need to get married?


*officially approve something: to give social, moral, or official approval to something

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I guess compassion is when you have respect toward someone who has different beliefs and morals than you do, even if they repulse you or go against everything you are used to or been taught. Humanity is the ablility to show compassion toward those who are different, or even those who have done something wrong against you.

The debate about homosexuality will continue on. There will probably always be some debate about it, since there is no proof as of yet about whether it's natural selection or a choice. But science is showing that gender and sexuality are not as simple as we think and I personally think that we should have some campassion for those who believe that they have a different gender until the question is answered fully.

I think that when teaching about homosexuality in school it should be to teach tolerance and compassion and stop the hatred and fear. Teaching about it is not going to turn your kids gay, despite the agitprop going around. The schools are not trying to turn out gays, but are just trying to put a stop to the schoolyard bullying that goes on. As for teaching about homosexuality, the jury is still out in the science world on the origins and thus it should taught as such. Despite the fact that most people think that children are sexually innocent, they can sense at a very young age when someone is different or doesn't seem to fit their gender very well. Hence the need to teach compassion and acceptence in our schools. Parents also need to show compassion when their children don't turn out as they hoped they would, despite their efforts.

I think if society wants to give religious marriage a special status to male and female couples, then in all fairness, get rid of the state santioned perks it confers to them.

On the same topic, have any of you been reading about the move toward gender segregated schools (girls and boys separated from each other) in some areas? I think that many have forgotten the history on why schools were originally segregated a long time ago. It was the fear that same sex schools were a breeding ground for homosexuals! I think is was in the 1940's that schools were desegregated (combined) for this reason. :lol:
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JFTR

Compassion

com·pas·sion [kəm pásh'n]
n
sympathy: sympathy for the suffering of others, often including a desire to help

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You may me looking for “Empathy” or some such.

Empathy

em·pa·thy [émpəthee]
n
1. understanding of another's feelings: the ability to identify with and understand somebody else's feelings or difficulties

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Anyway I have both.
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tunnelcat wrote:On the same topic, have any of you been reading about the move toward gender segregated schools (grils and boys separated from each other) in some areas? I think that many have forgotten the history on why schools were originally segregated a long time ago. It was the fear that same sex schools were a breeding ground for homosexuals! I think is was in the 1940's that schools were desegregated (combined) for this reason. :lol:
I live in an all-male school. Suprisingly, there are no homosexual people in it, at all! My theory is that because it's an all-male school, it means there's a strong masculine influence, meaning that nobody wants to be gay when being straight works so much better for influence.
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Spidey wrote:JFTR

Compassion

com·pas·sion [kəm pásh'n]
n
sympathy: sympathy for the suffering of others, often including a desire to help

Empathy: em·pa·thy [émpəthee]
n
1. understanding of another's feelings: the ability to identify with and understand somebody else's feelings or difficulties.

Anyway I have both.
OT. I have those and much more but I would like to ask two questions. Do you ever get sick over it, and do you experience hatred for those who inflict the suffering and the difficulties like I do?
TIGERassault wrote:...meaning that nobody wants to be gay when being straight works so much better for influence.
Then you can't say for sure that there are no homosexuals in your school. :)

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Bet51987 wrote:OT. I have those and much more but I would like to ask two questions. Do you ever get sick over it, and do you experience hatred for those who inflict the suffering and the difficulties like I do?
Ooh, you'd have to be really hard-pushed to find someone that doesn't. Unless you're talking about a certain group in particular, in which case it's pretty common. But if you mean altogether, then it's very rare because it's part of the human mind. Even people who you'd consider madmen and unloving would feel this way.
Bet51987 wrote:Then you can't say for sure that there are no homosexuals in your school. :)
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Well, I'm only talking about people who actually show an interest in guys, and those who show no interest in relationships at all are asexual, regardless of what they really feel.
Granted, it's not what they actually are, but I realise that I'm never going to figure out what they really feel if they don't show it, so I'm not going to put in an effort trying to find out.
It's also making me look a bit hypocritical too; promoting gay marriage, but not trying to promote it on a smaller scale. But that's because I'm not a perfectionist.

That, and I'm actually repulsed by any sort of relationship in my local area other than my own, for reasons I don't want to explain. I'd prefer to promote no relationships at all acceptable in my own school.
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Bet51987 wrote: OT. I have those and much more but I would like to ask two questions. Do you ever get sick over it, and do you experience hatred for those who inflict the suffering and the difficulties like I do?
Of course, I despise all who inflict suffering on the innocent, and yea…it can make me sick sometimes, but I also try to reserve my hatred, because hatred is a poison that destroys the soul.
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TIGERassault wrote: I live in an all-male school. Suprisingly, there are no homosexual people in it, at all! My theory is that because it's an all-male school, it means there's a strong masculine influence, meaning that nobody wants to be gay when being straight works so much better for influence.
There is a good probability that there are a few closet gays in your school. Homosexuality is probably far more pervasive that many people realize. Not all gay males are effeminate, nor are they spreading their 'gayness' it seems, or you would know about it.

If you want to do the research, here are some references from the past about sex-segregated schools and homosexuality.

In the March 22, 1947, medical journal "The Lancet," Dr. D. Stanley-Jones postulated that boys became homosexual due to "the public school system of education, in which boys are thrown together in circumstances that necessitate an artificial prolongation of the homosexual group." [D. Stanley-Jones, "Sexual Inversion An Ethical Study," The Lancet, p. 366-369]

The "British Medical Journal" during 1946 and 1947 printed over 20 pages of letters from doctors discussing homosexual development due to bad parenting, sex-segregated schooling or prison experiences.

Spidey, Both empathy and compassion would be applicable in understanding the problems that gay people must go through in life. 'Compassion' is to understand the pain of feeling the hatred of so many that dislike the way they want or need to live and 'empathy' to understand the difficulties in just trying to live their lives in a world that abhors their existence or even wants to murder them.
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