Lothar wrote:tunnelcat wrote:What's the difference between serving gays in your shop verses catering a wedding
A wedding is a ceremony that holds religious significance for many people, even if the people holding it don't view it that way. You don't force people to participate in events of religious significance against their will.
That's pretty shallow. I was married in a
civil ceremony on the grounds of my parents house. There was nothing religious about it at all. We were making to a commitment to each other for the rest of our lives, presided over by a judge and licensed by the state and not making a commitment to a God or a religion. The judge, a friend of the family, was Jewish, wore his Kippah and he didn't mind marrying 2 non-Jews. We didn't mind being married by a Jewish Judge and the ceremony itself wasn't Jewish at all. We haven't needed God's sanctity to make it last for almost 40 years. Love will do that, not religion.
Lothar wrote:tunnelcat wrote:Getting a heterosexual person to buy the cake for the gay couple is insulting and demeaning
You missed the point.
I wasn't recommending it as a strategy. I was noting that it wouldn't solve the problem, because the problem isn't "the customer is gay" but "I'm being asked to be involved in a same-sex wedding"; the problem is the EVENT rather than the CUSTOMER. It doesn't matter that you apparently don't understand why people view weddings as religiously significant and don't understand why they might want to decline participation in weddings they don't approve of; what matters is that you respect their decision not to participate. (I don't understand why my sisters converted to Orthodox Messianic Judaism, and I'm absolutely convinced they're wrong, but I don't wave bacon at their kosher dishes.)
You can't separate the EVENT from the couple. That's the only reason Kim Davis refuses to sign their licenses, because those
couples are gay, not straight. Other than that, the ceremony is
identical, at least with a state, non-religious ceremony. Only the participants are different, and it's because of that difference those other couples are singled out as violators of some person's religious beliefs when they want to get married and live their lives the way other people are afforded in a Democratic, secular, country. We are not a Christian Theocracy, although I'm quit sure Mike Huckabee would want it that way so's that none of his Christian friends would have to violate their morals doing the state's business.
Lothar wrote:tunnelcat wrote:you like to fantasize that we can all be goodness and nicey nicey to each other if we'd try
Not at all. You don't become all goodness and nicey nicey by trying hard; every human has deep and inherent selfishness and evil inside of them, and it can't be overcome just by fighting it. Humanity is broken and in need of a Savior. This is just one of my ways of pointing it out.
Now we get to the meat of the issue. We can all become good
only if we welcome into our lives,
Christ, the Savior. That's what I believe is the fallacy of Christian beliefs towards their fellow non-Christians and it's baloney. It's like if we all accept Christ, everyone will start being nice to one another and forget or override their basal instincts and hormones, which
were programmed into us by a God if you believe God made us. Wake up, we're complicated beings, not programmable robots who can turn off their instincts and chemicals because they suddenly
believe in Jesus. In fact, I believe someone has to become a little irrational to accept Biblical history purely on faith, written long ago by superstitious and frightened people.
Maybe we can change things in our lives that were part of our accumulated upbringing and experiences, but definitely not the basal coding we were born with, and that basal coding, not just that of the brain, but the whole system, subconsciously controls quite a bit of what we do in our lives, like it or not.
If Christians really revered Christ, then they'd follow his teachings, to love your fellow man, be kind to him and love him as your own, despite the vast differences between us. Instead, I see the Bible used and twisted into
a reason to reject or marginalize a fellow human being because he is different, or in the case of a gay person, somehow evil and not deserving of love, respect, or to be treated with respect as an equal human being. Christians are using Christ and the Bible as their pillar of superiority, with which to stand over and oppress, marginalize and reject, instead of being welcoming as Christ taught His followers. Stand outside your group-think Lothar and try to get a different view, if you're
really a Christian.