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He shouldn't have left his computer on and logged into Facebook. Big mistake. I'll have to say, she was very creative about her "revenge" though.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/best-br ... 00344.html

I wonder what was missing in the relationship....

tunnelcat wrote:He shouldn't have left his computer on and logged into Facebook. Big mistake. I'll have to say, she was very creative about her "revenge" though.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/best-br ... 00344.html

Charge that ★■◆● with theft.

Don't you realize that once you're married, everything in the house belongs to both of you by default, so technically, it's not theft, it's just cleaning house.

Nothing in that letter indicates that they were married. just living together.

Avder's got you on this one.

tunnelcat wrote:Don't you realize that once you're married, everything in the house belongs to both of you by default, so technically, it's not theft, it's just cleaning house.

Which is one of the best arguments I've heard for why no one should want to get married at this point.

Avder wrote:

tunnelcat wrote:He shouldn't have left his computer on and logged into Facebook. Big mistake. I'll have to say, she was very creative about her "revenge" though.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/best-br ... 00344.html

Charge that ★■◆● with theft.

If he was cheating on her, he deserved every bit of it.

Now hold on there TG. We can't just automatically assume the woman was without fault here. Men normally don't cheat unless they're not getting something.

I'm not saying there might have been issues on both sides, but I don't really give a damn what he "wasn't getting." If you don't want to be with someone anymore, nut up and tell her, so that you can both go your own ways.

Top Gun wrote:I'm not saying there might have been issues on both sides, but I don't really give a damn what he "wasn't getting." If you don't want to be with someone anymore, nut up and tell her, so that you can both go your own ways.

True, but it doesn't justify theft.

Like I said, I'm not crying over the fact that the poor widdle man had his stuff grabbed.

you're both right on this one.

Top Gun wrote:

Avder wrote:

tunnelcat wrote:He shouldn't have left his computer on and logged into Facebook. Big mistake. I'll have to say, she was very creative about her "revenge" though.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/best-br ... 00344.html

Charge that ★■◆● with theft.

If he was cheating on her, he deserved every bit of it.

It's entirely possible, but I highly doubt it. We do not know the man's side of the story and the circumstances of his supposed cheating or even if he actually cheated with her, so I would not be so quick to judge. The only clear fact here is that this bitter woman took some of this guys stuff without asking and hid it all over town in some twisted version of a scavenger hunt knowing full well, and quite possibly intending, that other people find it and take it. That's theft, and the note is a written confession. Woman scorned or not, she deserves some jail time.

Hey, if a guy can't handle his affairs so that the closest person to him won't distribute his belongings to the masses, I don't think he needs legal help... Frankly if you ★■◆● up that bad, you should be ashamed to bring it to court, unless her actions have caused you serious, lasting harm. You can wise up and buy new video games.

Avder wrote:

tunnelcat wrote:Don't you realize that once you're married, everything in the house belongs to both of you by default, so technically, it's not theft, it's just cleaning house.

Which is one of the best arguments I've heard for why no one should want to get married at this point.

Well, things may be co-owned, but I find it quite nice. We use each others things quite a lot, and we like to design and make things with both our tools and possessions. As for those things you don't want your spouse to use, or abuse, just make sure it's something they're not interested in anyway. However, computers should always be separate with their own passwords. Even though my hubby knows some of my passwords, and I his, we rarely peek at each others activities on the net. We trust each other. Trust, and not violating that trust, is what makes marriage the best thing in the world.

tunnelcat wrote:However, computers should always be separate with their own passwords. Even though my hubby knows some of my passwords, and I his, we rarely peek at each others activities on the net. We trust each other. Trust, and not violating that trust, is what makes marriage the best thing in the world.

My wife and I know each other's passwords, and open share each other's activities on the computers.... I'm curios why you think this is a compartment that each other shouldn't be allowed into... I have nothing to hide, so why would I?

From another angle: isn't locking him out of your internet activities a form of distrust?

Depends on whether the spouse is simply trusting enough not to look or is actually restricted from looking. The latter seems unnecessary.

For example, there are online arenas my wife doesn't access (e.g. she's not a DBBer, and doesn't read threads here unless I point them out), but she knows all my passwords and can access everything of mine.

snoopy wrote:

tunnelcat wrote:However, computers should always be separate with their own passwords. Even though my hubby knows some of my passwords, and I his, we rarely peek at each others activities on the net. We trust each other. Trust, and not violating that trust, is what makes marriage the best thing in the world.

My wife and I know each other's passwords, and open share each other's activities on the computers.... I'm curios why you think this is a compartment that each other shouldn't be allowed into... I have nothing to hide, so why would I?

From another angle: isn't locking him out of your internet activities a form of distrust?

On, no. We don't hide anything from each other. We both can look up each other's passwords in our little card file whenever we want (we're getting old and have too many passwords to remember). He can log on to my computer just as I can his. He can see my history and I his, at least before it gets deleted, which Firefox does automatically. There are no secrets. It's just that we have our own computers for convenience since we don't both do the same types of internet surfing or computer use. He doesn't play video games, so my rig is set up for that use specifically. His is set up for office work, writing, surfing and history research. Boring.